What do you want? We all want something; that is just human nature. It could be the dream home for your spouse and kids, maybe even your favorite car that you have wanted to drive ever since you were a kid, or it could be your forever person who loves, understands, and wishes to build a life with you. These wants do not have to be enormous life goals; your wants could be paying off your credit cards, networking with new people, making an extra hundred dollars each month, or dozens of other things.
However, if you want these things, then why don’t you have them?
You may think that you do not have them because you do not have the time or the money to get them, or that doing so is too hard to do at the moment and that is what’s holding you back from getting what you want, but it’s not. What is actually holding you back are your standards, beliefs, and strategy.
“You don’t get what you want, you get what you have to have” (Brandon Carter). This is where your standards kick in because whatever you change from a want to a “have to have” will become what you achieve. No matter how much you work you won’t rise to your ambitions; instead, you will fall to your standards. This may sound negative at first but that is only the case if you have low standards and leave them low. Imagine you are in the gym and your standard is to do 10 reps of whichever machine you are using that day. Some days you may work harder and push past 10 so that you can get stronger but whenever you are having an off day or don’t want to work out you will fall to your standard and only do 10.
This mentality will ring true for not only your personal life, but also your business. Whatever standards you set for yourself, be it your personal health, your sales
, or your monthly revenue, whenever things are tough and it matters the most, whatever standard you have set for yourself is what you will do. To grow so that you can get what you want you will first have to change your habits by finding ways to motivate yourself.
Many things, when used in tandem, WILL change your standards when done repeatedly, but I will give you the first one to use today. The first way to change your standards is write a list of love. The list of love consists of EVERYTHING that will improve in your life and the things you want out of life such as money, traveling, status, etc. Once you write the list of love keep a copy of this list on your phone and make sure to read it a minimum of two times a day, right when you wake up and right before you go to bed. From now on, think to yourself, “Is my current decision bringing me closer to or farther away from what is on my list of love?”